I always get asked, ‘Where do you get your confidence?’ I think people are well meaning, but it’s pretty insulting. Because what it means to me is, ‘You, Mindy Kaling, have all the trappings of a very marginalized person. You’re not skinny, You’re not white, You’re a woman. Why on earth would you feel like you’re worth anything?
— Mindy Kaling




If the only thing you walk away with from this event is photographs, then I did not do my job, I did not succeed what I set out to. But the only way I can succeed in my own endeavor is if you do the work. REMINDER: SELF LOVE IS WORK. Hard work, every morning you wake and every moment that follows. Self love starts now and the days following up to the Self Love Event are just as crucial as the event itself. 

I want you to take this personality test (https://www.16personalities.com/personality-types) to familiarize yourself with who you are. We tend to think that we know ourselves to the fullest extent but our inner and outer selves constantly changes. And in order to help others like myself get to know who you are and fully capture that, knowing yourself first is crucial. My job is not to photograph who you are but who you want to share with me. Who you are, is solely your responsibility and no one can take that from you. No one can decide that for you, nor change that in you. Knowing yourself well is the greatest relationship you'll ever have, which can only lead to even better relationships with the beings around you. In order for the camera to be one of those relationships - get to know yourself. 

Use this month to be present, to be conscious. Use the days following up to the event to pamper the deep insides of your mind. The insecurities that hide away until they are ready to bombard you without your consent. Use this time to think about what you want most within yourself and the path you are on in your life. Everything, and I mean everything is connected. Work deeply on your self love and other aspects in your life will start to unfold the way you hoped they would. It all starts here. You ready to put in the work? 



Honesty is mandatory. Vulnerability is encouraged. I can only capture your true dynamic if you allow me into your space. Remember how you interact when you’re alone, and don’t hide it. Embrace both the bursts of laughter and the quiet vulnerable moments. I will, of course, guide you through all this as we shoot, but I need you to meet me halfway and allow me into your intimacy. I strive to photograph the moments in between your thoughts of 'what should I be doing next'. Being honest with yourself and maintaining realistic expectations will only breathe powerful imagery. Overthinking and trying to create photographs you've seen in the past or in your head will only lead to photographs that you won't recognize. So let your mind wander and your words trail, don't focus too much on what you should be gaining or putting into your photographs - just show up & let's create together.



Bring the clothes you love. Wear what makes you feel comfortable. Simple as that. 



The retreat begins on July 6th whenever everyone has arrived, ideally in the afternoon. Check in is at 3pm, so anytime after that. The retreat ends on July 8th early in the morning. Check out is at 11am. We will have our last breakfast together and say our goodbyes. Please reach out if you need help figuring out transportation to the cabin. You should also be receiving all info regarding the cabin such as address, how to get there, rules and guidelines.



Music will be your source of magic during your session. Create a playlist specifically for this event with the music the makes you feel the most alive, calms you or even grooves you. Playlist every song that creates any emotion in you. This is absolutely a requirement. Start now so creating a playlist becomes a nostalgic or relaxing experience, not a quick attempt at scrounging songs on Spotify. 



It is so important to me that there are no expectations. You know the words - expectations lead to disappointment. Create and surround your mindset around the experience you have with yourself rather than what you will gain out of this event. Expecting to gain something specific will only deter you from being fully present and organically gaining what you will. 

Also - there are no rules, no guidelines. We're all in this together. I'm scared too, trust me. 

Why I created the Self Love Event was to redefine boudoir. I felt like all the boudoir events or 'marathons' I came across, I couldn't see myself at. I didn't want an environment where I arrived and got a face done, put myself in poses that weren't me and then receive  stunning photographs that only represented one aspect of my personality, 'sexy'. I want someone to capture every aspect of my personality - the introvert, the tired, the loud, the analytical, the boisterous, the quiet, the happy. I want it all captured, I wanted me captured because all of those combined are me! Not just one. The lack of diversity in personality I was seeing was what truly lead me to creating an event where you don't need to be anyone but all of your many selves. Whatever that may look like. I wanted to create an event for females who also didn't fit into a mold or label, especially not just one. I wanted to create the space for you to create bonds and relationships that go much further beneath the surface. To remember to not only empower ourselves but our fellow females.







Why choose self love.

because you are a woman. a force. an energy.